Outside Influences

Why do people have a way of making someone feel really shit? I think its their own insecurities.....if you are a self confident individual that believes in yourself and the way you live (treat others the way you want to be treated) then you will be fine to live and carry on your life without ever feeling guilty about anything. I think a true friend is someone that can admit when they have done wrong but also had the ability to tell you when you have messed up in a constructive way.

People always want to take the things they have done wrong and turn it around in a way to make you feel bad where they are actually just feeling really crap by the way they have treated you. I have learnt to honour the friendships where it is a mutual beneficial relationship. Think about it, it is a relationship that constantly needs to be worked on. You cant call someone a true friend that is never there for you during the hard times. It those times that make your true friends stand out. And vice versa.....you need to take your pride out the way sometimes and know when the time calls for you to be by your friend.

If you get out what you put in then it makes the friendship worth it. A friend is not only someone that you can have a good party with. There are tons of those kinds of people around and they can come and go just as quick. A friendship is also not measured by the length of time you have known someone, these things can just blossom from nowhere and a new friendship can feel just as good as when you meet a partner that you have a connection with.

Trust is important, without that you dont have anything. You also need to know when to take the good and the bad. If its only benefitting one party then its not worth it. If you feel more drained when you with that person then its time to call it quits. This is hard when growing up and you seem to grow near and far between different people but its often the curveballs that life throws you that makes you need and experience different people at different times. As long as you happy within yourself and you can honestly say that you would want to be friends with you then that is a positive outlook. Love yourself and dont be afraid to, you came onto the earth on your own and you will leave the earth on your own. The people around you are not always going to be there. You cannot live your life living vicariously through other people, you have to also know how to deal with things on your own. People are there just for you to vent and make you feel better and possibly find a solution but they cannot change circumstances that have been thrown at you.

Trust yourself, listen to your inner being and learn to love yourself.